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I have been at my job for almost a year & a half. there is this older lady that works with me - shes also the same status as me - who has been bullying me the last few months. She yells at me in front of fellow employees & customers. She accuses me of doing things wrong when it was other people who did it. She belittles me. Its getting very stressful to the point where i'm reduced to tears. i've taken note of the times & situations where things have happened & approached the boss about it. She said she would speak to the district manager but never has taken that step - she doesn't like to get involved in these matters. she told me that herself. so i don't think she even bothered cuz nothing has been done about it. the other day i went to work & was called into the office by the assistant manager - who is best buddies with the bully. she told me that the bully told her that i was "disrespectful" to her & told me that i should start "respecting" her. i was shocked. how could she believe the bully & not me? i tried to tell her about the situations where the bully was being hard on me & she just turned her back on me & left the room without saying anything. i don't know what to do now, i feel like quitting but i don't want the bully to win. should i contact the district manager myself or even the human resource department about this? how should i go about it? i'm so broken up about this. please help me asap!  
   
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There are two things.

1. Clearly you do not have the personal skills to protect yourself from bullying. You must learn to stand up for yourself, and also do it in a professional way.

2. If you are going to complain, you must go to someone who will listen and act, not just protect the bully. Go at least 2 levels above her head.
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Hi,

I agree with whoever said to go and seek HR AND you may choose to go as high as possible too. You need to get some power in this situation OR use this site to and start a dialog with a high level person.
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I think you should also be noting the incident with your assistant manager and speaking to HR.
I've done a lot of work on dealing with bullying (for me) and while I think i may let the bully "win" by quiting, some strategies I've found help are;
1) Sticking to the facts. If someone's yelling and accusing you of something, trying (if possible) to remain calm and have them give you details. I know in my situation, I was told that the perception was... x. it's a bit of work (and for me a mental adjustment) but I've had to learn to draw out the facts and be very neutral.
2) Trying to deal with the stress and not letting them reduce you to tears. I'm no professional, but if you let someone see that they can't get to you (hide it :)) they will no longer get whatever satisfaction they are deriving from the situation (making you cry/demoralizing you).
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