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I work in a team environment and have been recently promoted. One of my co-workers,the bully, has decided that she thinks I shouldn't have got the promotion because a) she has to train me on the new things I need to learn and b) it cuts into her text messaging to friends and talking on the phone time. The other workers in my team are afraid of the trouble she could cause for them( she is the bosses "favorite" and in charge of the work distribution) so they go along with her by making "her life and interests" the main topic of conversation all day long. The one senior team member is her good friend and lets her get away with whatever she does, unless it impacts on his workload.
She has not done any training with me, her attitude being, you got the promotion ,you should know what to do.The others have joined in by showing her any mistakes I make, rather than coming to me to fix them and generally acting like I am not there at all( no talking, communicating, or even acknowledging that I am in the room, unless there is a mistake to point out)Also, I have many friends in the company, and used to enjoy my lunch breaks with them, it was a chance to communicate with "normal, mature adults" but my manager has changed my shift and lunch hour so that many times I cannot have lunch with them,if they go out to eat, because I don't have enough time to join them.( my lunch now only spans the 1st half hour of their lunch.)

I have mentioned this womans "bullying" attitude to my manager and HR but they just tell me to keep "trying" with her,but honestly if she isn't aware that it is a problem, I don't see how anything will change.So, I have been looking for other work,but I need some help in how to deal with this situation until I can leave, it is soul distroying and I hate going to work.  
   
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This is a tough one as the situation is very complex. There may not be any right answer here. You need tools to become a better manager. Dealing with difficult situations and people is something you will need to improve on as you get older. Stay there as long as you can so that you have more of an opportunity to learn. It will be hard, but you must come away with some strategies on how to handle this.
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This is a situation where you have 3 some choices to make:1)You can own her problem and allow yourself to "fall to pieces emotionally.,2) You can ignore her problem and do your job based on your employer trusting your skills and giving you the promotion.; 3)You can meet with her privately and ask her what the basis of her anger is about and how the two of you could resolve her bullying behavior.;
4)You can decide to give this problem a period of time and if there is no resolution, move on to a more comfortable position.
These are hard choices to make and focusing on the one which is best for you make help you take operate outside of her problem until you reach a comfort level of where this situation can go with regard to your ability to cope with workplace behaviors. This is a learning adventure which may enhance your self esteem and chances for greater employment opportunities. Rely on your own skills and seek out those who are willing to give you information and training to do your job effectively.
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