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Firstly, I would like to say how happy I am to have found this site. I have an unfortunate situation on my hands at a new job and would like some advice. I have just joined the management team at a mid sized company and report indirectly to our SVP of Sales and Marketing. I have been here for just 2.5 months and have had several red flags go up but it has come to a different level recently. I have cut and pasted my documentation so far for your review.
Monday, June 2, 2008

At approximately 9:30 am ___ asked me if I had a minute to talk and we went into her office. She told me that I was doing a great job and that the initiative I have been showing was great but that she would like me to check in a little more often as to where I'm at. I agreed and told her that I would really like to sit down and set some goals regarding number of ___for Western Canada. She said we would do that with ___.

Then she said she wanted to address what I wore to work. She said she felt it was too casual wearing open toed shoes to work and not very conservative tops. I told her that I realized I wasn't up to par and that I was slowly starting to build a wardrobe for work as I am still trying to get on my feet after moving back. I explained that I had a very large debt that was effecting me financially and that I was finding it very stressful. I began to cry and apologized as I felt embarrassed. She proceeded to tell me that I looked like I was going to a bbq when I come to work, that my hair is too long and my earrings are too big. She asked if there was anything she could do to help. I told her she just needed to understand that I am really struggling financially and that it will eventually get better and that I am working on getting my wardrobe bigger for work. She said she was going to talk to HR and get a cheque cut for me to go and "have a manicure or treat myself to something". I responded by saying that I didn't need charity, just understanding that I was working on it. She expressed that she just wanted me to "fit in" in the office and it would be nice to see me in some pumps.

I pulled myself together and we started talking about an upcoming presentation that she would be doing in Toronto in a few weeks and I agreed to create a recruitment presentation for her. She highlighted the key areas she wanted information on. We ended the meeting after this conversation.

Monday, June 9, 2008 10 am

I arrived at ____ office for our bi-weekly conference call and met 2 members of the marketing team waiting outside of her office. They asked me if I was part of the meeting too and I said, yes, it's the __call. They said it had been cancelled. I didn't receive notification of this as I had asked on 3 separate occasions for ____ to add me to the distribution list but it hadn't been done.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

During our meeting, __, __and I sat down to review the presentation that ___ will be making at the upcoming __meetings. She had asked me to prepare a presentation for her that would essentially be teaching ___ about the new recruitment process and what was available to them. Upon reviewing the presentation she had created, a very small portion of my material was included despite her asking for very specific information that she wanted to speak to. None of the requested information was incorporated in the final draft.

Thursday, June 12, 2008

Meeting with ___to discuss various topics. Previously I had asked ___ on 3 separate occasions about setting my goals and objectives for the year and was told not to worry about that right now and to focus on fine tuning the proposed recruitment process and that it was more important to just interview candidates and get my feet wet. My contract states that upon reaching my goals I will receive a $5000 bonus. I brought this up with ___ today and he is going to follow up with this and get back to me about numbers.

Additionally, every morning when I arrive at work, she looks me up and down and nods if she approves with what I am wearing. I would also like to clarify that I was not dressing unconseratively but was just recycling the same 5 outfits as I have just returned to Canada after living abroad for 4 years. I modelled my wardrobe after my co workers and actually dress more "corporately" than most on the team.

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A visitor of this site offers this as a possible solution...
You need to abide by their rules, and that includes dress code. You should not have taken the job that you are unable to do adequately (that includes dress code). If you need to wear a business suit every day, and dont own any, then you dont take the job.
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Instead of accepting a check or charity, you may want to consider an employee advance to buy a suit, shoes, and haircut to get started. Ask for repayment terms you can afford. One company I worked for started a uniform policy-supplying 3 polo shirts with the company logo. Employees had to buy their own khaki pants, skirts, etc-so the employer helped those who needed it with advances up to a certain amount to buy the items.
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