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This is the original problem from an employee...
Manager who was new to firm, did not ask how things were operated, how I did my work, instead she came in with a attitude which she tried to say i didn't work with her. At no time did she sit with me to review procedures or what I do. Instead she took files away from me and gave to another to redo, these were files from previous years that didn't need to be redone, dug around in my office while I was off, made accusations that she felt all wrong, said my files were all wrong, said my bank statements were wrong, blamed me for things like not taking direction which was false, kept important tool from me and didn't tell me she had a working copy while mine was not thus I couldn't do my job, she read my body language in negative way, always called me into board room to talk to me, she made assumptions, didn't hear what i said, lied about me to the boss, all the tings she took away was done without my consent, suspended me on her lies and removed my files and gave to someone else to do, my office was emptied out day after I got suspended, lots shredding going on?? the list goes on....she is nice in front of people yet she says sarcastic things, depending on who's there at the time, and she makes lots of assumptions or notices things then turns this into what she feels is wrong.........
boss from hell or what?  
   
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The previous advice was not helpful as your situation has existed for some time and the advice to defend yourself the "first time it happens" is advice given "too little, too late."

1. Keep ongoing dates of abuse/problems. Keep small LOG of this and take this home with you each day! Try to remember past events and put this in log.

2. See if "bully" will meet with you to discuss WHY attacks are occurring. Ask for job description. Ask if anything has changed from job description you had before and why is it that now, you're not good enough for her. Take notes.

3. Try to make notes about lies you know aren't true and ask why she felt you did this or that when you didn't. Ask what makes her "think" you did. Ask her to put herself in your shoes when you're trying to do your best but can't because of the stress. Ask why.

4. Stress that you want to help her in her job. Ask what would it take.

5. Keep copies of everything you do.

6. Last resort: If things don't improve, go to HR to explain problems - bring dates, including dates of meetings in which you tried to resolve issues. Request a meeting where HR, you and supervisor can meet to mediate a meeting-of-the-mind solution.

Hope this helps!


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It takes two to tango. You need to be able to defend yourself from what you believe is an injustice. The first time it happens, defend yourself.
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