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I am a small business owner and my wife is an executive for a fortune 500 company. She often goes on business trips for meetings and training. On these trips she often goes out to dinner with other co-workers. Every now and then I think these outing are inappropriate because after dinner they often carry the outing to a club or bar. A couple of months ago my wife went to an out of town meeting with her boss and about 8 other employees. They went out to eat every night, which I think, is appropriate. But one of the nights the group went to a bar after dinner. My wife did not get back to her room until 12:30 am. When I confront my wife about this she said that this is appropriate. I disagree. I donít think my wife would cheat on me but this just seems like a bad idea. I am trying to find out if my view is wrong and out of date. I would like others to share their view on this so I can have a better understanding of this whole concept.  
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First of all I hope you and your wife have a trusting and caring relationship and can discuss issues - because this is an issue. I think that dinner is fine, and sometimes going out is ok - that is where the trust comes in. However,I do feel that it isn't a good idea if they go out all the time. I am guessing that you may be feeling a bit left out. Do you both go out together when she is home? Maybe you need to spend some time together and just have some fun. Do you have the option to go on travel with your wife? If so, maybe it will make you more comfortable. Otherwise.. keep the lines of communication open, and talk, talk, talk... and don't forget to listen as well. Good luck.
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I have the same problem with my husband. He started out with dinner, and then it carried out to a bar, or club. Now, he is asking for a divorce. He had an affair with his co-worker whicle he was on one of these trips. It is ok to trust, but you have to know who to trust. I was letting my husband do this, because I thought he would know better, but evidently not. He had already cheated on his x-wife with a
co-worker. I just did not want to smoother him, but I guess, once a cheater, always a cheater. The girl he cheated with is also married, so they are both cheaters.
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Hi,after reading your concern it is quite in line for you to have confronted your wife about your issue. She must stike a balance between the work meetings dinner and heading to a night club or bar afterwards. Maybe you can take her out and discuss the issue again with her. Reason with her. Let her understand how it affects you and that you only want the best for your relationship. Likewise, you want to also prevent a negative situation or outcome from even developing if you can. After all she is your wife and you guys are a partner so communicate and come to one understanding. That way no one feels left out. Regards!
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