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My workplace has a policy where employees arenít allowed to get involved romantically with one another. However, there is a man that used to be in my department, who I worked with and got along with really closely who was recently transferred to another department. I have always wanted to ďget involved romanticallyĒ with him, but I didnít want to risk my job. Now that heís in his new department, we donít have any contact with each other at all at work. We may as well be working in different companies altogether. I really want to ask him out, because I think that we could really be something. I know he feels the same way. Should I, and if so, how should I approach my boss to tell him my intentions?  
   
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My suggestion is that you try to find love somewhere else. I've seen this same scenario, when the relationship ended, even though at the time they worked for different depts, over time that changed and now they work together and it is not good. How things are now may not be how they are later.
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I suggest you honestly prioritize clearly whats really important in your life:

1. Family
2. Health
3. Career
4. Friends
5. etc.
6. etc.

then decide; if this person is really THE ONE you will get quite likely involved anyway -looking for another job wont be that much of a sacrifice for real love! If your not willing to go that far its certainly not worth anyway...
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I suggest you honestly prioritize clearly whats really important in your life:

1. Family
2. Health
3. Career
4. Friends
5. etc.
6. etc.

then decide; if this person is really THE ONE you will get quite likely involved anyway -looking for another job wont be that much of a sacrifice for real love! If your not willing to go that far its certainly not worth anyway...
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I don't see the harm in talking to your boss about it. Does the policy specifically state different departments? It is better to be open and honest than deceitful. You might also prepare yourself with "what-if" scenarios eg you break-up, etc. How both of you would handle such things?
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