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Hi- I was involved in an affair with a man (a director) who I worked with. We ended things for many reasons, but the root was b/c I suspected him of sleeping around with a million others. And I was right. I could never believe from day one that I was involved in such a despicable thing and am happy to be free of it. My issue is, he is a womanizer. Obviously the fog has lifted and I see so many faults of my own here. He will continue on his ramp of woman after woman after woman. I can't believe he does this and gets away with it? It just seems so wrong. In one regard I feel angry and know that I am to blame for doing it in the first place but on the other hand, two wrongs don't make a right and he should stop abusing his position to treat women with such disrespect. His conduct is atrocious - really like no man I've met.  
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Just let him go off and do his thing. You are likely feeling the guilt of what you did, and it is for a good reason. Don't do it again, and ignore him and his behaviour to the best of your ability.
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He is not the only man to behave badly, and often us women don't want to see it, and when we do we realize it is wrong and wish to prevent other women from the same fate but can't because they don't see it just like you didn't at first, let it go.
perhaps for helpfulness, when you can and opportunity presents itself; remind other women "safe sex,"
in my work place I have an opportunity every morning to say "work safe"
Have a great day and may a good man come into your life.
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I agree with the other responses. Let it go. He saw something good in you and took advantage of it for his own selfish reasons. They call these type of people predators. It is a shame that so much of it goes on today, but in truth, there are many people out there that are craving something that is missing in their lives and most carve attention and will take it wherever they can get it. You need to remember that you have total control over you and treating this person as if they are transparent of never existed is the best thing you can do for yourself. Truth be known, I ALMOST fell victim to someone like that, but realized or came to my senses not to sleep with them and pulled away quickly. Some make an art out of it and are very good at playing the game to suck you into it. Self awareness on your part is your best defense against people like this. Remember, always present yourself in a professional kind manner and it will not matter what people say or do, you will be the one that is on top. If someone speaks negatively to you about what that person may say about you, remember to say this "Is that so" and leave it at that. There are many good people out there, you will find that special person.
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