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I have been on the receiving end of some really graphic comments by my colleague, both of us are senior managers in our organization. Some of the things he has said are extremely vulgar and directed at me for example ' I'd like to see you slide down the banisters with your legs wide open' and other gems. However, in the last week on a works night out for Christmas he came up behind me and put his fingers between my legs and felt me up. I immediately turned on him and told him what I thought and have since reported him to our HR department who are taking him to a disciplinary. I have sent them details of what he did and also previous info on dates of other things he has said. Trouble is I feel guilty, I berated him when he touched me and I also made my feelings clear when he said the vulgar things but now my emotions have calmed I feel bad that HR are going to haul him through a hearing and as yet I don't know the outcome. I can't regret reporting him but I don't want to face him either. I can't stand the man and I know in my heart I have done the right thing but the whole situation is haunting me and I feel like I have to get confirmation all the time that I did the right thing.
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You are a victim of a sexual assault and you defended and reported it which was the best thing to do not only for yourself but to stop the perverted power grabber from assaulting others. But, that said, still does not address the fact that you were victimized and the company needs to give you mental health services and PTO, all confidential and not company information, because you were sexually assaulted and there could be legal charges too. This is a power game, he wanted to intimated, shame, control you or have you crumble and quit. Demand emotional damages and counseling. You should never have been exposed to this hostile work environment.
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