I have worked for this organization for several years and was not aware that this person has been watching me come and go from the building for some time. They appear wherever I am (because he watches me on the security cameras). He befriended me before I knew this was happening and we became friends. This person is married and so am I, we are both over 45 and after some time in the friendship, began making passes at me. I ignored them, and now understand, even if one is a friend that this is not the thing to do. I have been caught off-guard by him and grouped, grabbed, etc. I never allow myself to be caught alone with him and avoid him or when I do have to have contact, it is strictly on a professional level. This person will search for me and come into my work area just to see me or what I am wearing and I can't stop it. It is if they have become obsessed with me. I have gone as far as ignoring them and when I do, they back off and then they start their games all over again, but more intensely, like nothinbg ever happened. Sometimes they will leave something on my desk to let me know they were there, like a penny heads up (somewhat hidden). I am not frightened or scared of them because I can definitely take care of myself and keep a very professional manner about myself. I heard some background on them and understand that this has happened before with him and he got away with it because management likes him and he is extremely sneaky about what he does. One of the problems is that their are women where I work that will feed into this guy and let him act the way he does because they think it is fun, etc. I like my job and the company I work for, and leaving it is not an option for me right now. A good confident of mine says that he is a player and a Narcissist and that I need to be careful because he is fixated on me and will not give up until he gets what he wants and then may continue. What is the best way to handle this. |