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I just found out that my husband as been having an affair with someone that I currently work with. He also works for the company, but I share an office with this person. I don't directly report to this person, but I do report to her best friend the Supervisor and the Manager.. They are all friends. She was given the option to be removed out of the office when everything came to light, but she refused to be moved. So, the two people that I report to also knew of the affair. What if any, are my recourses. How can I have both the Manager and Supervisor that I report to sit across from me and give me an evaluation and rate me on dignity and respect. They offered to remove me from the department to avoid being around all three of them. They also told me that I was not allowed to talk about the incident at work. Isn't this my "personal" business to discuss? They keep telling that this is a personal issue, yet I can't discuss my personal issue at work because it will create a hostile environment.  
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Sounds like this is already a hostile environment to you. From what you described, this a large company with over 15 employees, which means you should have a EOE representative in your firm. I suggest seeing one. It's confidential, and they will help you determine what your chances are. Yes, unfortunately, I would refrain from discussing this, ahem, "personal issue" with them or at work other than EOE. Just for your safety, in case things get any hairier. If you can't find your EOE, ask someone from Human Resources. You don't even have to tell them what's up just ask about EOE. Both departments must be professional, thus confidential. I hope this helps. Good luck. Oh, whatever you do, don't threaten anyone. Just be cool and review your options. I know it's hard, but try to maintain your relationship with the "bosses" on the decent level. It will later show you in a positive light, if the you know what hits the fan.
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Retain your dignity, hold your head up high and you go girl. don't give them any ammunition to find fault in your work. do your job well, shake yourself off, step up and live life to the fullest!
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